I happened to catch “The Gifts of Imperfection: Living with Courage, Compassion and Connection” on PBS tonight. It caught my attention because the woman, who turns out to be Dr. Brené Brown, was talking about being good enough. How changing the way we think can make us happier people.
Wholehearted living is about engaging in our lives from a place of worthiness. It means cultivating the courage, compassion, and connection to wake up in the morning and think, No matter what gets done and how much is left undone; I am enough.
It’s going to bed at night thinking, Yes, I am imperfect and vulnerable and sometimes afraid, but that doesn’t change the truth that I am also brave and worthy of love and belonging.
– Dr. Brené Brown
She went on to talk about the pressure to fit in and to belong and how they are not one in the same. She also spoke about how we measure our worthiness by how we look or what we earn. For many people, this leads to a never ending cycle of performing and trying to please and not learning to love our real self.
“The Gifts of Imperfection: Living with Courage, Compassion and Connection” is the result of more than ten years of research on the power of authenticity. It explores the meaning of love and belonging, and how our feelings of “never good enough” prevent us from experiencing real connections in life. We need to understand the power of just showing up. Don’t avoid situations because you can’t do them perfectly. Do new things. Do scary things. Learn when and how to say yes to your life and when no is more appropriate.
But Dr. Brené doesn’t just point out the issues, she goes on to offer a road map so that people can free themselves from believing they are not enough. Once you can let go of what people think, you can gain your own sense of self worth and learn to embrace the thought that you are worthy of love and belonging.
Dr. Brené uses a bit of humor and a lot of storytelling to share her research. She’s gentle and soft-spoken, with a sweet smile. If you can catch her on PBS do, you’ll be enriched. If you can’t, check out her website or purchase her book. It’s worth the time.
Video Excerpt of The Gifts of Imperfection: Living with Courage, Compassion and Connection
Dr. Brené Brown’s Books:
- The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You’re Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are
- I Thought It Was Just Me (but it isn’t): Telling the Truth About Perfectionism, Inadequacy, and Power
- Women & Shame: Reaching Out, Speaking Truths and Building Connection
Find & Connect with Dr Brown Online at…
- Brené Brown Website
- Brené Brown Speaking on Vulnerability at TEDx Houston Conference
- Brené Brown featuredon CNN Website
- Positive Psychology News Daily ” Whole-hearted Living (positivepsychologynews.com)
- (video) Shame & Empathy by Dr. Brené Brown (nurturenatureproject.com)